Before the test, know that your child will probably cry. Even if you prepare, your child may feel some discomfort or pain. Try using play to show your child what will happen during the test. Doing so may help you learn your child's concerns. The most important way you can help your child is by preparing ahead of time and providing support at the time of the test.
PREPARING BEFORE THE PROCEDURE
Limit your explanations about the procedure to 5 or 10 minutes. Toddlers have a short attention span. Any preparation should take place right before the test or procedure.
Some general guidelines for preparing your child for a test or procedure:
- Explain the procedure in language your child understands, using plain words. Avoid abstract terms.
- Make sure your child understands the exact body part involved in the test, and that the procedure will be limited to that area.
- Try to describe how the test will feel.
- If the procedure affects a part of the body that your child needs for a certain function (such as speaking, hearing, or urinating), explain what changes will occur afterwards.
- Give your child permission to yell, cry, or express pain in another way using sounds or words. Encourage your child to tell you where the pain is located.
- Allow your child to practice the positions or movements that will be needed for the procedure, such as the fetal position for a lumbar puncture.
- Stress the benefits of the procedure. Talk about things that the child may find pleasurable after the test, such as feeling better or going home. You may want to take your child for ice cream or some other treat afterwards, but do not make the treat a condition of "being good" for the test.
- Allow your child to make simple choices, such as what color bandage to use after the procedure.
- Distract your child with books, songs, or a simple activity such as blowing bubbles.
Play can be a wonderful way to demonstrate the procedure for your child and identify any anxiety your child may have. Tailor this technique to your child. Most health care facilities for children use play to prepare children for procedures.
Many young children have a favorite toy or important object that can be used to explain the test. It may be less threatening for your child to express concerns through the object. For example, a child may be able to understand a blood test if you discuss how the "doll might feel" during the test.
Toys or dolls can also help you explain the procedure to your toddler. These visual examples can take the place of unfamiliar words for younger children with a limited vocabulary.
Once you know how the procedure will be done, briefly demonstrate what your child will experience on the toy. Show the body positions the child will be in, where bandages and stethoscopes will be placed, how incisions are made, how injections are given, and how IVs are inserted. After your demonstration, allow your child to play with some of the items (except for needles and other sharp objects). Watch your child for clues about concerns and fears.
No matter which test is performed, your child will probably cry. This is a normal response to a strange environment, unfamiliar people, and separation from you. Knowing this from the beginning may help relieve some of your anxiety about what to expect.
Your child may be restrained by hand or with physical devices. Young children do not have the physical control, coordination, and ability to follow commands that older children and adults usually have. Most tests and procedures require limited or no movement to ensure their accuracy. For example, to get clear x-ray results, the child cannot move.
Restraints may also be used to make sure your child is safe during a procedure or other situation. For example, restraints may be used to keep your child safe when staff have to temporarily leave the room during x-ray and nuclear studies. Restraints may also be used to hold your child still while the skin is punctured to obtain a blood sample or start an IV. If your child moves, the needle could cause an injury.
Your child's health care provider will to everything possible to make sure your child is safe and comfortable. Besides restraints, other measures include medications, monitors, and observation.
Your job as a parent is to comfort your child.
DURING THE PROCEDURE
Your presence helps your child during the procedure, especially if the procedure allows you to maintain physical contact. If the procedure is performed at a hospital or at your child's health care provider's office, you will most likely be allowed to be there. If you are not sure, ask if you can be there.
If you think you may become ill or anxious, consider keeping your distance, but stay where your child can still see you. If you cannot be there, leave a familiar object with your child for comfort.
Avoid showing your anxiety. This will only make your child more nervous. Research suggests that children are more cooperative if their parents take measures (such as acupuncture) to reduce their own anxiety.
If you are feeling stressed and anxious, consider asking friends and family members for help. They can provide child care for other siblings or meals for the family so you can focus on supporting your child.
- Your child will probably resist the procedure and may even try to run away. A firm, direct approach from you and the health care staff may be helpful.
- Give one direction at a time during the procedure, using 1- or 2-word commands.
- Avoid covering your child's face.
- Ask your child's health care provider to limit the number of strangers entering and leaving the room during the procedure, because this can raise anxiety.
- Ask if the provider who has spent the most time with your child can be present during the procedure.
- Ask if anesthesia can be used, if appropriate, to reduce your child's discomfort.
- Ask that painful procedures not be performed in the crib, so that your child does not link pain with the crib.
- If your child can see you during the procedure, do what your child is told to do, such as opening your mouth.
- Use your child's normal sense of curiosity as a distraction during the procedure.
- Ask if a low sensory environment can be created.